Engagement Party Etiquette: Tips on Hosting and Attending

You got engaged! Now what? There are so many steps when it comes to wedding festivities that it can be difficult to know when to begin. We explain engagement party etiquette and tips to make sure yours goes off without a hitch.

What is an engagement party?

An engagement party, like it sounds, is a celebration to celebrate a couples recent engagement.

The key people in the bride and grooms lives may not have had a chance to mingle and get to know each other yet, so its nice to have a relaxed event to break the ice before the wedding planning stress sets in. A fun party will alleviate any jitters.

Who throws the engagement party?

Traditionally, an engagement party is hosted by the bride and grooms parents. But, over the years, engagement parties are now hosted by close relatives, friends and even the couple themselves. There may even be two parties: one for family, one for friends. The engagement party is usually scheduled about a month after the engagement. This gives the couple a little breathing room from all the excitement.

If a couple decides to through their own engagement party, its good to keep in mind that the bill is their responsibility. Location can be casualthe couples favorite restaurant, a small venue or someones house.

When should you throw an engagement party?

The engagement party should be thrown within a few months of getting engaged. It is typically held two to three months after the engagement, giving whoever is throwing the party enough time to prepare, and giving the newly engaged couple enough time for all the excitement to sink in.

Who should be invited to the engagement party?

Its a good idea to start working on the wedding guest list before the engagement party, since traditional etiquette dictates that everyone invited to the engagement party should also be invited to the wedding If you or your parents are hosting, you should be aware that an engagement party invite translates to a wedding party invite in most peoples minds.

There are some exceptions to this rule, such as if your friends decide to host an informal gathering. In that case, you may invite acquaintances such as coworkers and newer friends that wont necessarily make the wedding guest list.

Its also worth noting that this rule is changing to accommodate the fact that many people have smaller weddings or destination weddings that may be far from friends and even family.

Once you have an idea of who you will invite to the wedding, you can pare the list down to your immediate family and closest friends. If youve been invited to an engagement party, you can consider yourself in the inner circle and an important part of the couples lives.

Do formal invitations need to be sent?

It is not mandatory to send formal invitations through the mail, but it may be fitting if you are hosting a formal engagement party. If you are throwing a more casual event, email invitations or invitations via social media will suffice.

What types of activities should be planned?

Typically an engagement party is a time for the bride’s close family and friends and the groom’s close family and friends to meet and celebrate the couple. It’s also a good time for the wedding party to meet if they haven’t yet.

Engagement parties typically consist of eating, drinking and conversing with one another. Games are not usually played.

During the party, it is traditional for the father of the bride to toast the couple. Following this, the bride and groom both give a toast.

Should guests bring gifts?

It is not mandatory to bring a gift to the engagement party, but many guests opt to bring small gifts anyway. Some couples start their registry before the engagement party to give guests ideas, but its common for gifts at the engagement party to be creative and sentimental.

Some couples even ask guests not to bring a gift. This can be denoted on the party invitation.

If they arent hosting themselves, the bride and groom may want to thank the host or hostess with a special gift that is as thoughtful as the party itself. Tickets to a show or a first edition of their favorite book are some ways a couple can show their appreciation toward the host.

Gift ideas for an engagement party

Most likely, the couple hasnt yet registered anywhere at this point. If they have, you could choose one of the smaller gifts to bring. Keep in mind, an engagement gift is not the wedding or bridal gift. If they are having a celebration at home, you can also offer to bring something to eat.